It Better Be A Hell Yes

I posted a quote on my social media today talking about being a “hell yes” and how we should never settle for “lukewarm” things in life (the real quote had several F-boms, which was little bit aggressive, so I’ve chosen to omit them here, haha). I wanted to explore this though a little more though because something about it really resonated with me.

It’s so easy to get caught up in lukewarm situations (or people) in life, isn’t it? We settle for mediocrity, whether it’s in our relationships or our careers – but, deep down we know we deserve better, don’t we? This is where the saying “if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no” comes to my mind. And it has me wondering, why do we struggle so hard to choose ourselves and fill our lives with hell yes moments?

In our journey through life, we encounter all kinds of people and situations that shape us as individuals. Every experience, every choice we make has the power to make us better. Yet we don’t always make choices that align with us. And every single time we settle for less (than a hell yes), we compromise ourselves. So that’s got me thinking, maybe we should practice choosing ourselves and prioritize our happiness and growth, what do you think?

Surrounding ourselves with people who genuinely appreciate us is an essential part of this process. I think it’s important to build a supportive network that recognizes our worth, values our time, and reciprocates our respect and energy (that last part is where I struggle the most because I’m a giver). When we find our hell yes people, we create an environment that fosters growth and authenticity, and these, my friend, these are kinds of connections that bring out the best in each of us.

And speaking of relationships. Whether they’re friendships or romantic partnerships, they should be built on a foundation of mutual enthusiasm and genuine connection (none of this one-sided BS). We shouldn’t have to work for love, friendship, or acceptance – ever. If a relationship feels lukewarm, and there’s no true spark or reciprocation, it’s a clear indication that it’s time to reevaluate things and move on. Embracing hell yes relationships means only investing our time and energy into connections that are reciprocated (louder for the people in the back – Kristine). Ones that uplift us, inspire us, and align with who we are.

The hell yes concept isn’t just about our relationships though. It extends to many other facets of our lives. We should be wary of settling for lukewarm jobs or hobbies just as much. If we spend the majority of our waking hours at a job that doesn’t excite us or align with our passions, we risk missing out on a fulfilling and purpose-driven career (not to mention, the days are SO LONG). Similarly, engaging in lukewarm hobbies can prevent us from discovering our true talents. And as I always say, life’s way too short to settle for anything less than a hell yes.

So, my friend, I recognize that choosing ourselves isn’t always the easiest thing to do, but embracing a life filled with hell yes moments is an essential step in creating a fulfilling and meaningful existence on this beloved planet we’re all on. So, remember this, if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no. Do not settle for anything lukewarm in life; embrace the fire of your genuine nature and choose yourself. Then watch as your life becomes a resounding hell yes.