No More Chances

Do you ever find yourself stuck in a cycle of letting toxic people back into your life? You know, those people who always manage to screw things up and leave you feeling drained and frustrated? Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s time to break that cycle, once and for all (I’m talking to myself here – I have a real problem with this).

The truth is, people rarely change for good. Sure, they might make some superficial adjustments to their behavior, but at their core, they’re still the same old person you knew before. It’s like putting lipstick on a pig – it might look a little better, but it’s still a pig. Ouch!

So, why do we keep giving these people second, third, and fourth chances (and fifth, and sixth, Kristine)? Maybe it’s because we’re optimists at heart, always believing that people have the potential to change for the better (me). Or maybe it’s because we’re just gluttons for punishment, masochistically seeking out people who will cause us pain (because we’re unhealed ourselves).

But let me tell you, it’s time to cut the cord. We can’t keep letting these toxic people back into our lives, no matter how much they plead, cajole, or beg and no matter how much we think we want to have them back in our lives. It’s like trying to clean up a spill with a dirty rag – it’s only going to make things worse.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. ‘But what if they really have changed?’ Well, first of all my friend, the odds are not in their favor. Sorry not sorry. As the great philosopher, Heraclitus, once said, ‘You can never step in the same river twice.’ People are constantly evolving, and not always in the ways we want them to. Plus, even if they have made some changes, you should still uphold your personal boundaries first and foremost. You know what that means…

So, let’s make a pact, shall we? Me and you. Let’s vow to never let toxic people back into our lives. Let’s surround ourselves with people who make us laugh, who lift us up, and who inspire us to be our best selves – people who are good, and want good for us. And let’s do it with a sense of humor and a dash of wit, because life’s too short to take everything so seriously.

I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again, if someone has shown you their true colors and those colors happen to be toxic, that’s it – we’re done, no more chances. The door is closed. People don’t change. Let’s move forward with confidence, laughter, and the knowledge that we’re all in this crazy, beautiful, messed-up world together. You in?

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